SEX
1. What are your expectations within a sexual relationship?
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2. Are they realistic, romanticized or idealized?
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3. Have you experienced any of your expectations with satisfaction?
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4. What disappointments have you experienced? Why?
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5. What successes have you experienced? Why?
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6. Name 3 emotions that describe your first sexual encounter.
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7. How did you react then?
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8. Can you determine any patterns of behavior that could have possibly evolved from this first experience?
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9. Review these reactions with a non-emotional perspective, using wisdom and self-love. How can you redefine these initial experiences to justify, forgive and potentially reform your concepts about sex for a healthier outlook?
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10. What aspects of sex appear negative?
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11. What causes made you arrive at those choices?
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12. What you would like to transform those aspects into and how?
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13. Identify your base issue (i.e Trust)
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14. Identify a goal, something small to start, gain momentum (i.e. role play)
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15.. Make consistent effort and practice daily. (i.e. create a mantra)
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16. How can these newfound approaches provide insight into other aspects of your character?
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17. How is sex tied into your idea of …
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18. Can you discern a pattern from your responses above? If there are unacceptable concepts, how you would like to replace them ?
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19. A. Identify specifically what aspect does not serve you or you can’t let go of.
B. Write what you would like to transform them into.
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Write a linear map to get from point A to point B (I love three’s, but add more steps if you need to)